If you keep finding yourself drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, it can feel confusing and deeply frustrating — especially when it’s the opposite of what you say you want. These relationships often involve inconsistency, mixed signals, and a lack of emotional safety, yet they can feel powerfully compelling. In this post, we explore five reasons you may be attracted to emotionally unavailable people, from low self-worth and early attachment experiences to intermittent reinforcement and saviour dynamics.

Sex is one of the most vulnerable forms of intimacy we share – which means our attachment patterns show up very strongly in the bedroom. In this post, I unpack five key ways anxious and avoidant people differ in how they relate to sexual intimacy: from using sex as an emotional barometer, to overthinking vs numbing out, to mismatched desire when the relationship is under stress.

Leaving a toxic relationship should feel like relief — but more often, it leaves you confused, ashamed, and emotionally tangled long after it ends. Even when you know the relationship was unhealthy, you may still find yourself longing for the good moments, replaying the chaos, or questioning why it’s so hard to move on. This post explores why toxic dynamics are uniquely difficult to recover from, especially if you have anxious attachment, and why your brain clings to relationships that hurt you.

Breakups can shake us to our core. While the grief deserves to be honoured, many of the cultural messages we absorb about breakups keep us stuck in comparison, confusion, or false hope. In this post, I share five hard but ultimately liberating truths to help you navigate this season with more clarity, self-respect, and emotional maturity.

For people with anxious attachment, self-soothing can feel impossibly hard — especially during moments of conflict, distance, or emotional uncertainty. When your nervous system is activated, you might spiral into panic, feel powerless to calm yourself, or rely The good news is that self-soothing is absolutely a learnable skill. In this post, we explore why anxious attachers struggle with self-regulation, how early patterns shape your adult responses, and the practical ways you can begin building internal safety.

Wondering what truly attracts avoidant partners—and what pushes them away? Discover the 10 traits avoidantly attached people find most appealing, and the 10 they find most off-putting, to build healthier, more secure relationships.

When you live with anxious or disorganised attachment, it can feel incredibly difficult to tell whether your internal alarms are signalling real intuitive insight or simply anxious activation. In this post, we explore gentle, practical ways to distinguish intuition from anxiety, including how urgency shows up in the body, why your first feeling may be valid even if your interpretation isn’t, and how to honour your anxiety without letting it dictate your behaviour.

Many of us will move through seasons in our relationships where our needs aren’t being met, but for anxiously attached people, this experience can feel especially painful. It’s not just about the unmet need itself — it’s the self-doubt, the collapse in confidence, the fear of being “too much,” or the urge to overcorrect by becoming demanding. This piece explores how to navigate that space with clarity and compassion — from identifying the core need beneath the request, to knowing when flexibility is required, and finally recognising when a partner simply cannot meet you in the ways that matter most.

Wondering how to get an avoidant partner to open up emotionally? The real pathway isn’t pressure or persuasion — it’s safety. In this post, you’ll learn the three essential shifts that help avoidant partners feel secure enough to share more openly, deepen intimacy, and move past their instinct to withdraw.

Anxious and avoidant partners often feel an intense pull toward each other — but that chemistry can quickly give way to conflict. In this post, I explore why this dynamic is so common, and how — when approached with care — it can become a powerful space for healing and growth.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in unfulfilling relationships, raising your dating standards could be the key to breaking the cycle. By practising self-worth, recognising old patterns, and adopting a long-term mindset, you can attract partners who truly support your growth. When you honour your worth, the right person will recognise it too.

For people with an anxious attachment style, letting go of a relationship can feel overwhelming and impossible. When an ex re-enters the picture, it’s tempting to reconcile for the sake of comfort and familiarity. This post explores key questions to ask yourself, helping you move beyond fear and nostalgia to make a decision rooted in self-worth and clarity.

In this post, we’ll explore why texting can feel so intense for anxiously attached individuals and offer practical strategies to manage this anxiety while fostering a healthier relationship with communication.

In this post, I explore nine things a healthy relationship will not ask of you, offering clarity and guidance for building secure, fulfilling connections.

Learn to recognise the common signs of avoidant partner deactivation, why it happens, and how to navigate anxious-avoidant dynamics with compassion and clarity.

Discover the key similarities and differences between fearful avoidant and anxious attachment styles. Learn how both are driven by a fear of abandonment but manifest differently in relationships—especially when it comes to intimacy, conflict resolution, and emotional consistency. Understanding these attachment dynamics can help you foster more secure and balanced connections.